As a business owner, your time is precious.
You probably have multiple requests from people that are pulling you in many directions.
But, if you say yes to every invitation that comes your way, you will not have time for the activities that are critical to growing your business.
What I frequently hear from my clients is that they donβt have enough time for everything that needs to be done in their businesses.
Since we all have the same amount of time, it really comes down to making choices.
So how do you know what to choose?
Start by making a list of the strategic activities that are essential to the growth of your business. These are the actions to say yes to.
Say no to anything that doesnβt fall under your strategic activities. This is what it means to set business boundaries.
It may sound simple, but many people find that saying no is an extremely difficult thing to do.
Whatβs keeping you from saying no more often?
Reasons People Are Afraid to Say No
* Fear of conflict
* Wanting to be liked
* Afraid of not being asked again
* Feeling guilty
* Unsure about how to say it
Have you ever agreed to do something and then later felt angry, anxious, or overwhelmed about it wishing you had said no?
Saying yes when you want to say no is a huge energy drain and distracts you from the things you really want to do for your business.
βHalf of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough.β Josh Billings Click to Tweet
The good news is that saying no is like any new skill, with practice it becomes much easier. And even better, it is extremely empowering. Start with something small and build from there.
Remember, you donβt have to give an answer on the spot. If someone asks you to do something and youβre not sure, you can always say something like βlet me check my schedule and Iβll get back to you.β That way you have time to consider what is best for your business.
Just because someone else wants your time doesnβt mean itβs always a fit for you. Before you agree to meet up with someone in person make sure that itβs even necessary.
Sometimes if you first ask for more information via email, that will tell you everything you need to know to make a decision about how to move forward.
And if you determine you would like to talk with the person, go for a phone call or video-Skype first. You can always meet later if things progress.
Many times if youβre not sure, this may be an indication that the answer is no. Have you heard the expression from Oprah: βDoubt means donβtβ?
In addition, you may be surprised to find that most people respect your answer, even when it is a no. If they donβt, it may be a sign that it is not a balanced relationship.
βYou have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage β pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically, to say βnoβ to other things. And this way you do that is by having a biggger βyesβ burning inside.β Stephen R. Covey
Setting boundaries in your business will create more space and energy for you to move forward and reach your goals faster and easier.
And thatβs not all; when you set and enforce your boundaries you will have more confidence, be more attractive, and feel more relaxed.
Why not start saying no today? Once you know how you want to use your time, it will be easy to identify things you can say no to. This will create time for strategic action.
When you say yes only to the most important (and profitable) actions for your business you will see your business grow.
Β© Stephanie Ward
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What kind of things do you say βnoβ to? How do you say it? Share your experiences below in the comments section. I respond to every single comment.
Brilliant post Stephanie – I think you wrote it especially for me. I have started saying no but not as much as I should – and for all the reasons you have stated. I will remember this next time I should be saying no. Thanks for sharing on Bizsugar.com
Many thanks for your feedback Sian. It’s not easy to say ‘No’ and the more you do it the easier it gets! Wishing you all the best.
Stephanie well timed advice. You’ve hit the nail on the head – saying YES to the things that are critical for my business. Some words of advice that I sometimes forget for myself: saying NO to something is saying YES to something else.
Thanks for reminding me.
Wonderful to hear Mary Jane! You’re so right, saying No to things creates space to say Yes to things that will serve you.
Stephanie,
“Saying yes when you want to say no is a huge energy drain and distracts you from the things you really want to do…”
This applies to non-business relationships too
Very true Russ, thank you for your comments!